you using a common fuel relay ?

I don't think you really need a relay... I'd just wire the ground to the pumps ground, unless its over 10amps ?
If you want to use the relay, 85 to fps ground, 86 constant power, I think you know how the switch above works lol no brainer there.
Just make sure your fps rules aren't being triggered in the current setup ? I'd make the trigger >5000rpm upload turn car off, turn key back on and check.
If your getting current through it still... you may have a short...